Talking to your kids about world crises
CRISIS! Your children are surrounded with it: school shootings, kidnapping of kids, war… Your child’s number one response to crisis is fear. How do you handle your child’s fear?
Identify the fear. If your child is exposed to an experience which you think will make him fearful, don’t wait for your child to tell you he is afraid. As a parent, we need to be able to identify the signs of fear. A fearful child may show very aggressive behavior. He may fight with his siblings and peers. He may become defiant. He may delay obedience in order to gain some control in a situation where he feels he has none. A fearful child may become very quiet. He may sleep more, sit in front of the TV, or play video games.
1. Talk openly with your child about his fear. Talk about his feelings.
2. Let your child ask, “Why did God allow this?” Tell your child that the crisis is a result of sin. If all people followed God’s instructions, there would be no shootings, kidnappings….But some people break the rules and many people suffer- many innocent people. God could have stopped this crisis, but He wants us to trust Him, to listen to Him, to obey Him and to live at peace with each other. This is God’s ultimate plan for us.
3. Remind your child of the presence of God in this crisis. Tell Him that God will walk with him through any crisis. This is a great time to teach Psalm 91 to your kids.
Psalm 91 (NIV)
1 He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. [a]
2 I will say [b] of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust."
3 Surely he will save you from the fowler's snare
and from the deadly pestilence.
4 He will cover you with his feathers,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
5 You will not fear the terror of night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
6 nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,
nor the plague that destroys at midday.
7 A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.
8 You will only observe with your eyes
and see the punishment of the wicked.
9 If you make the Most High your dwelling—
even the LORD, who is my refuge-
10 then no harm will befall you,
no disaster will come near your tent.
11 For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways;
12 they will lift you up in their hands,
so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
13 You will tread upon the lion and the cobra;
you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
14 "Because he loves me," says the LORD, "I will rescue him;
I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
15 He will call upon me, and I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble,
I will deliver him and honor him.
16 With long life will I satisfy him
and show him my salvation."
Footnotes:
[a] Psalm 91:1 Hebrew Shaddai
[b] Psalm 91:2 Or He says